Learn To Control Your Anger

This morning in Bhagavatam class we discussed angerWhat are some healthy ways to deal with insults?
and how to deal with it. This discussion was in theOne method I call the Jada Bharata method. Jada
context of the description of Lord Boar speaking inBharata (who was previously Bharata Maharaja and
such a way as to make Hiranyaksa angry. "Thethen a deer) was insulted by a king when JB was
Personality of Godhead said: Indeed, We arehelping to carry the kings' palanquin. Out of
creatures of the jungle, and we are searching aftercompassion JB was jumping to avoid some ants in his
hunting dogs like you. One who is freed from thepath. The king hurled insults at JB, but JB responded
entanglement of death has no fear from the looseby explaining that all the insults the king hurled were
talk in which you are indulging,for you are bound upin relation to the body, and in actually we are not the
by the laws of death."body.
In this particular case Krishna wanted to enjoySo in this particular method of dealing with insults one
fighting pastimes, so to enhance His pleasure heis completely convinced that one is not the body and
insulted Hiranyaksa (one whose eyes are always onis not attached to the body so bodily insults do not
the gold), and He was quite successful His endeavor.affect one. Another method is what I call the Haridas
Generally though, Anger is something that is less thanThakura (compassion) method.
desirable. Anger is one of the Anarthas (unwantedHe was being whipped in many different market
things) that are impediments in achieving the goal ofplaces, yet he was feeling overwhelming compassion
Krishna consciousness.towards those who were attempting to torment him.
There are so many verses about controlling anger inThe third method I call the Dharma the Bull method.
the sastras. The question is though, how should weWith this method one understands that the Supreme
deal with anger, especially the anger that arises afterPersonality of Godhead has arranged this
we have been insulted. Generally we take the tact ofcircumstance for one's edification.
suppressing or repressing anger. Suppression meansThen one tries to understand what the lord is
that we are aware that we are angry but we hideteaching one, what one has to learn, how one should
the symptoms.act. The fourth method is the Token Reaction
Repression means that we push down the anger andmethod. This means that one understands that one is
deny that we have an issue with it. Both suppressiongetting a token reaction for what one has done in
and repression are not healthy responses to anger.the past.
The anger will eventually surface in some otherAlso one understands that if he/she keeps serving
context, either as anger directed towards anotherKrishna enthusiastically with his/her body, mind and
(innocent) object or sublimated anger, whichwords in spite of this reaction, one will be a fit
manifests as another harmful emotion.recipient of Krishna's mercy. "The purport of this
Repressed or suppressed anger can also affect a tollverse is that when a devotee is in a calamitous
on the physical body. One can develop differentcondition he takes it as a benediction of the Supreme
ailments such as TMJ (in which one grinds ones teethLord and takes responsibility himself for his past
and may even need a mouthpiece to protect themisdeeds.
teeth at night). Internalized anger can also result inIn such a condition, he offers still more devotional
organ damage.service and is not disturbed. One who lives in such a
Usually our bodily difficulties (syndromes) are due todisposition of mind, engaged in devotional service, is
an emotional state that we have not come to termsthe most eligible candidate for promotion to the
with. This can even apply to serious illnesses likespiritual world. In other words, such a devotee's claim
cancer and such. We certainly want to deal with ourfor promotion to the spiritual world is assured in all
response to insults in a healthy Krishna conscious waycircumstances.
then.